Raise your hands if kids and chores don’t go together in your home like a perfect match?
I feel like I need scary music playing quietly in the background as I approach my children to do chores. Don’t get me wrong….they help sometimes. Usually after I have threatened early bed time, no electronics and their life. Then with heavy hearts they do it. Luckily, 20% of the time they are quick and willing to help.
Being a mom is tough. We aren’t maids to our tiny army though and that I totally how I feel. My kids are old enough to do more and make things a little easier on me. My 8 year old is a hoarder…this isn’t a joke. I have to go clean trash from his room because he won’t. He had a little fit when I threw a fortune cookie fortune away because it had “chinese writing on it”. Mr Middle, who is 6, is quick to help, but also the first to throw himself on the floor. You really never know what you are going to get. Little miss 4 year old hides or bribes her brothers to take care of it for her with promises of letting them watch their show or sharing a treat with them…..girlfriend knows what she is doing.
Then you have me, Mom. Picker up of all things left behind and expected to keep a clean house. I walk into friends homes and just think how do they have a clean home? They have kids. Some have pets. What are they doing that Im not?
I don’t want to make my kids out to be these entitled little brats because I swear that isn’t the case. They do help, just not as much as I need them too. I will admit, I do clean a ton and since I do it, why do they? Only I am realizing that I can’t be a mom, wife, friend, beachbody coach, lipsense hottie, taxi driver with 3 school schedules and just over all me on top of keeping a house clean.
I have tried chore charts and really hate them. We have tried a reward jar but seriously, Im not rewarding you for doing something you are expected to do. HECK no to allowance…again, Im not paying you to do what your expected. I don’t want to overwhelm my kids with chores. I want them to be kids, but mom is taking all the slack and really starting to feel it.
So after turning to my facebook friends for advice I found something simple enough to start with before building more. This is something that will work for all my kids with their schedules and homework while still being allowed time for fun.
Plain and simple…
I don’t make my kids clean my stuff so why do I need to do theirs? I told them the new rule taking effect Monday so that we have time to give them a clean slate without starting on the wrong foot. They aren’t thrilled but honestly, if they have clean rooms and clean up their own crap I have NOTHING to complain about! They will not have fun or get to use any electronic till things are done….including homework!
After a month and seeing good results I will rotate simple chores, cleaning the bathroom, sweeping floors, loading the dishwasher (they already unload daily) helping more with the animals etc. They are kids and I don’t want them to think that our home has to be perfect, but I do want them to learn respect for what they have and the home that they are blessed with!
Wish us luck! Next week isn’t going to be easy but it is going to be worth it!
So if you haven’t heard of Lipsense by Senegence then you are missing out! It’s the perfect lip color to last all day long that is actually healthy for your lips instead of just covering your lips with colorful wax….I found it almost a year ago and was sold. I never wore lipstick before this because I hate the smell and taste of lipstick. It’s nasty! But what is in this stuff to make it amazing? I can give you the ingredients but it won’t make much sense.
So I came across this post from a fellow SeneSister…she totally knows her stuff and breaks down each thing in the colors and gloss and explains them to you. I got permission from her to share this all with you.
Please if you can read it all. She spent so much time putting this together and I couldn’t love it more!
“I am a molecular and cell biology major, ex biotech lab technician, and chemistry teacher. Written below is my post:
Warning! Very LONG!
The Science of LipSense
When looking at skincare or makeup, I agree with the philosophy that when looking at products the only thing that really matters is the ingredients list. Some ingredients are over hyped for how well they work or how dangerous they are or how safe they are. The truth is usually somewhere in the middle and I prefer to see biological data in order to draw my own conclusions. Sometimes it’s over my head but I try to understand all the science. That being said, I hope all the following information is accurate.
When looking into lipsense I had to look up the ingredients list. From the information I could gather, the main ingredients are the finely ground pigment bits (or molecules if I want to sound scientific) and the SD 40 alcohol. It is a lab grade alcohol meaning it will be free of any additives (like rubbing alcohols which “are unsafe for human consumption: isopropyl rubbing alcohols do not contain the ethyl alcohol of alcoholic beverages; ethyl rubbing alcohols are based on denatured alcohol, which is a combination of ethyl alcohol and one or more bitter poisons that make the substance toxic.”-Wikipedia). The specific type of alcohol is called ethanol (or ethyl alcohol) which is made from grains and the drinkable kind (like Everclear) but is usually mixed with denatonium salt (this is the denatured part). This salt is extremely bitter and is added to discourage consumption and “so that it is not treated as an alcoholic beverage with respect to taxation and sales restrictions.” – Wikipedia. I’m pretty sure by law they have to add this to cosmetic alcohols especially the unsafe alcohols (like in nail polish remover), again to discourage drinking it. Alcohol kills bacteria (think hand sanitizer) so your lipsense will never go bad and is what causes that tingly feeling (and what causes the tingly feeling in most toners) when you apply lipsense. There are different types of alcohols in skin care – simple, fatty (gives liquids a smooth velvety feel), and aromatic (can be irritating to sensitive skin, especially for me when derived from essential oils). Ethanol (the specific alcohol in lipsense) is under the simple category and will dry out skin when used alone. This product does not work without the gloss that goes on top and shouldn’t be used without it. The tingly, cooling sensation you feel when you apply Lipsense is the ethanol evaporating off your skin. Ethanol is also what acts as an exfoliant and why when you start using lipsense your lips will peel a little. If you use lipsense every day, you are essentially exfoliating your lips everyday (cause it’s so hard to get off) and the product will last longer the fresher the skin layer it can set on. Also the product will last longer depending on what colour you choose and how many of those tiny pigment molecules are trying to settle on your skin. Highly pigmented colours will come off easier because to get those bright colours you need a lot of pigment. These pigments are also why you have to shake the tube well before application. You need the pigments to be evenly distributed. The pH of the skin (determined by lipids that make up your skin’s barrier) may have a slight affect in how well it lasts but not as much as how well exfoliated your lips are. Now this is pretty much (from my knowledge) the only alcohol based lipstick and it’s what gives it all its cool properties – you can layer the colours, it stays on forever, and it feels like you have nothing on your lips! The layer aspect is crucial for it’s staying power since your body breaks down the bottom layer, the environment breaks down the outer most layer, and it’s that middle layer that stays put.
Anything alcohol based will take your lipsense off and anything that has fats like coconut oil or olive oil will break the pigments down. The gloss you buy with your lipsense colour acts as a barrier. When you are eating heavily oily foods, you need to put it on before you eat so the colour will stay. It’s long wearing but it has to come off somehow.
Other ingredients in lipsense are acrylate and copolymer, (used in cosmetics for adhesive or binding purposes and is regulated), isostearyl alcohol (a fatty alcohol), methyl glucose and butylene (skin conditioning agents that are non irritating), and hydroxypropylcellulose (thickener and lubricant – sometimes used in artificial tears). These ingredients are man made and very common is cosmetics. Some ingredients that don’t use the scientific name are water, St. John’s wort (medicinal herb used for it’s antioxidant properties but can have cause irritation when exposed to sunlight) , tree peony (another medicinal herb used probably for its fragrance and skin calming properties), linden (a genus of tree species – used for antioxidants), citronella, and limonene (used for scent and probably derived from lemongrass and fruit – can be irritating in high doses). These other ingredients are probably in fairly small amounts since they are listed close towards the end.
Most lipstick’s main ingredients are waxes and oils and lip stains are mostly water or gel. When I started researching for this post I looked into lead being in our lipsticks (which lipsense does not have and is well advertised). From the FDA’s website I found that “Lead occurs naturally in the environment, and its occurrence, as an impurity, in cosmetic products can’t be avoided. FDA has taken action whenever necessary to remove products from the market that contain lead at unsafe levels.”. Unsafe was determined to be no more than 10 ppm (parts per million). There are two ways you can be exposed to lead, through ingestion or absorption through skin. With lip products, it’s both, but what’s more troubling is the ingestion. No lead in our lipsticks is a good thing. Lead poisoning is rare but has very varied and general “sick” symptoms and high toxic doses can cause seizures and comas. Most cosmetics do not have higher than 10ppm of lead but for the rare few that did, it is good that this is now regulated!
Lipsense is also advertised as vegan (a personal conviction for some and also should be mentioned – it is not tested on animals), GMO free (this is a different conversation and one I have opinions on but is not related to lipstick), gluten free (important for some especially those who have celiacs disease), and wax free. The wax free advertisement is meant to be a pro because while wax provides a protective barrier it doesn’t moisturize the skin directly. However wax can lock in moisture which is why most chapsticks aren’t completely useless and your skin arguably needs this barrier. Petroleum is also used often in chapstick or glosses (think Vaseline) but again just provides a barrier. Beeswax could be considered an exception since it has moisturizing, anti-inflammatory, antibacterial, and an anti-oxidant properties. Propolis is a tree sap that allows the last three properties in beeswax but can be an irritant to some so beeswax in cosmetics tends to be man made. Synthetic beeswax is the vegan option and has moisturizing and barrier qualities mentioned above.
The lipsense gloss ingredients mainly include dimethicone, beeswax (as I just mentioned), shea butter, and tocopherol (organic compound with Vitamin E activity). There are small amounts of octoxynol-40, isolaureth-6, (helps the ingredients mix, can be an irritant, regulated by FDA), propylene glycol (organic alcohol used to control viscosity), and propylparaben (probably used as a preservative since it doesn’t have the alcohol like the colour and you don’t want bacteria growing in your gloss). Dimethicone is a silicon oil that makes products easily spreadable and adds a protective barrier like waxes do. With it being listed first, and the largest proportion of the ingredients, I believe this is how the lipsense gloss doesn’t break down the pigments and will keep your color on, while still using shea butter as a moisturizer. Shea butter is the next ingredient listed and is extremely moisturizing. It is a fat just like coconut oil or olive oil. My go to lip moisturizer is lanolin which is “wool fat” or oil from sheep’s wool, which I argue moisturizes skin the best but goes on very thick.
Mica is a reflective mineral that can be found in your sparkly glosses. Minerals I like to think of as really tiny rocks. They are harmless but if you inhale the powder it’s really not good for your lungs. Titanium dioxide is also a common mineral that can be found in makeup (in lipsense) and sunscreens specifically for sensitive skin as it will not be absorbed into the skin which is what causes a lot of irritation. Iron oxides (CL 77499, 77491, 77492) are your pigments I was talking about earlier. All the CL numbers you see are pigments and dyes or colours. “FDA also allows companies marketing their products internationally to use dual labeling for colors, listing names acceptable to the FDA as well as Colour Index (CI) numbers that are required for labeling colors in the European Union and other countries in the world.” (personalcarecouncil dot org) Since lipsense is vegan, none of these colours should be derived from insects.
One last comment I would like to make on this product is the sun protection aspect. Lipsense provides sun protection by being a physical barrier between your skin and the sun. Now most opaque lipstick will do this but you don’t get quite the same coverage and variety of colours in lighter shades that are also opaque. Usually to receive the benefit of sun protection, it would require a lot of product on your skin that feels heavy (think of the zinc oxide surfers put on their noses or under their eyes). However this stuff feels light and like I have nothing on and will be a staple in my summer sun protection arsenal. Many of the sunscreen chapsticks I have used before tasted awful and made me sick to my stomach. This is one of the biggest reasons I was sold on this product as I have very fair skin and finding a solution for my lip sunscreen has been on my radar for a long time.”
If you read this whole thing, BRAVO! If you want Lipsense let me know because I sell this heaven sent lipcolor and gloss and use everything by this company!!!
Happy Healthy…what does this mean to you? To me it is about living a healthy lifestyle and letting your body and weight fall into a comfortable place. It’s living a healthy lifestyle that also makes you happy. It is being able to eat healthy with a sweet treat whenever I feel like it, in moderation of course. I don’t tell myself NO to things. I may think NOT NOW but never NO. It just makes my craving worse….and no one wants to be around someone who is on a “diet” and HANGRY!
I understand that sugar is an addiction but I’m ok with having a happy healthy addiction. I have cut sugar numerous times in my life, for MONTHS and didn’t die. I felt too restricted though. I felt like I couldn’t enjoy myself just to lose 5-10 lbs….its stupid if you ask me. It wasn’t for me but for some it is worth it and that is totally fine.
What ever happened to just saying “Screw the scale” and enjoying life? When did we become so obsessed over weight and looks? Of course, I haven’t given up on myself and take care of myself but this obsession with thigh gaps and ab cracks is just unreal to me! When I found out that an ab crack was a thing that girls wanted…I died. I had to look it up to see if it was real and sure enough, it is! Why? Why are we obsessed with being so tiny?I have started a new thing where I pick out an outfit in my mind and no matter what I wear it, even if I am feeling yucky and just want a sweat shirt. I am forcing myself to get rid of the negative talk to myself because that isn’t healthy and doesn’t make me happy.
I will admit, I use to think this way. Then I lost 75 lbs after having my daughter because I had let myself go and needed to find a healthy balance. I look at pictures from then and holy cow, it isn’t pretty! Since then, I have gained 30 lbs back but I lift weights, lots of cardio, I started yoga, I am active and not just starving myself. I eat a lot of food but it isn’t 100 calorie packs of cookies and 1/2 cup of a frozen dinner, its fruit and veggies, meat and a scoop or 2 of ice cream.
I use to dream of being thin, but it’s just not in my genetics. Instead of dreaming of being tiny, I changed it to strong and healthy. To being a healthy example to my kids. I don’t want them to struggle with weight like I have. I don’t want them to starve themselves because they aren’t thin enough. I want them to find a healthy relationship with food and exercise.
So let’s end the negative talk to ourselves and embrace our own beauty. Let’s find that happy healthy lifestyle without wishing for what others have. Let’s eat healthy and exercise because we love ourselves, not because we feel like we are fat, but because we truly want too. Let’s just look in the mirror and be thankful for our unique beauty from head to toe~
Who loves carrot cake? It’s healthy right? Carrots, pineapple, coconut….those things are healthy! Ok, maybe not the cream cheese frosting but you guys, being healthy is about moderation. It’s not about starving, it’s about eating right and enjoying the sweet things on occasion. I try to keep Sunday as my treat day….
This is a favorite recipe though. I make it only every few months because you truly can’t stay out of it. It’s the perfect cake. Not too heavy or sweet, just heavenly.
Crap, now I want to make it. Wonder if I can talk my husband into making it for me since I kept the kids alive today!
Best Carrot Cake ever recipe!
2 c All Purpose Flour
1 1/2 c Sugar
1/4 c Brown Sugar, packed (dark or light)
1 1/2 t Baking Soda
1 t Baking Powder
1 t Salt
4 t Cinnamon
1/4 t Nutmeg
1/8 t Ground Cloves
1/4 t Ground Ginger
2 c Finely Grated Peeled Carrot, packed
1 c Coconut Flakes, sweetened
1 c Raisins (Optional)(I never use them)
1 can 8 oz Crushed Pineapple, drained
(reserve 1 T of drained Pineapple juice)
1 1/2 c Walnuts or Pecans, chopped small pieces
1 c Vegetable Oil
2 t Vanilla Extract
1 T Finely Grated Fresh Orange Zest
3 Eggs, extra large
Pam non stick Cooking Spray
Total Prep and cooking time approx. 1 1/4 hr.
Total Cooling and Icing time approx. 2 1/2 hrs
Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
Prepare two 9 inch cake pans by spraying with Vegetable non-stick spray (like Pam Spray) and line with a parchment paper round on the bottom then spray the top of the parchment. Or spray a 9 X 13 baking pan with Vegetable non stick spray (like Pam Spray) or use 20 jumbo Cupcake liners in a Muffin tin without using Pam spray.
In a large bowl whisk well: Flour, Sugar, Brown Sugar, Baking Soda, Baking Powder, Salt, all Spices.
Peel then Grate approx 5-6 medium Carrots to yield 2 cups packed. Grate Carrots finely to no more than 1/4 inch pieces. Or process in a food processor until finely grated but not mush. It isimportant that you peel the Carrots before grating. You do not want the tough skins in your cake.
In a medium bowl or KitchenAid bowl add Carrots, Grated Fresh Orange Peel, Drained Pineapple, Raisins (optional), Coconut Flakes, Walnuts or Pecans and mix well with a big spoon.
To this mixture add the Vegetable Oil, Vanilla Extract and Eggs one at a time mixing in well then add 1 T of the reserved Pineapple juice and mix well. Scrape down bowl often.
Slowly add the wet ingredients to the dry ingredients and mix with a hand mixer or Kitchen Aid for about 1 minute until well mixed. Do not over mix.
Pour divided into prepared (as above) 9 inch cake pans, or 9 X 13 pan, or approximately 20 Cupcake liners filled 3/4 full or a 9 X 13 baking sheet sprayed with Pam but no parchment paper needed.
Bake at 350 degrees for 25-30 mins for Cupcakes, 35-40 minutes for 9 inch layer cakes and 45-50 mins for 9 X 13 in the center of the oven. Half way through cooking rotate the pans for even cooking. A toothpick will come out clean when done. All ovens vary in timing so check at lowest time first and if not done put back in oven and recheck in 2- 3 minutes.
Allow to cool completely in pan for 1-2 hrs. before removing to ice with Cream Cheese Icing. Recipe below. Place 1/4 of icing between the two layers and when placing the top cake layer on, put the flat side of the cake (the bottom when it was in the cake pan) facing up for a flat top which makes a more attractive cake and easier to ice.
And to top it off here is the amazing Cream Cheese Frosting!
2 sticks Butter, unsalted, softened 16 oz. Cream Cheese, softened (2 bars) 3 c Powdered Sugar 4 t Vanilla Extract 1/4 t Almond Extract 1 small pinch Salt (very small pinch)Total Prep Time: 7 minutes (except time to soften butter and cream cheese.)
Allow Butter and Cream Cheese to sit out until at room temperature and softened.
In a large bowl, place the softened Butter.
Cream the Butter with a hand mixer for 2 minutes. Then add the Cream Cheese and cream for 2 minutes or so more until well mixed.
1 cup at a time, add the Powdered Sugar and blend well.
Add Salt, Vanilla and Almond Extracts and mix well. Taste and add more Powdered Sugar to be mnore sweet or more Cream Cheese to suit your taste.
Keep Cream Cheese Icing at room temperature for the best consistency to ice Cakes.
Refrigerate unused icing. To use again, bring to room temperature then mix with a hand mixer for about 1 minute before using.
OPTION: For those that like a very strong Cream Cheese taste add another 4 oz. of Cream Cheese for a more intense flavor.
So we all hear and even say this phrase “New Year New You”. While I agree with it, I also super disagree with it. You’re already awesome so why is it a “NEW You?” Why not just work on simple little things instead of trying to recreate something already pretty special?
This year I am going to try something new. I want a theme or quote for myself and my year. I’ve seen other people do this in the past and I always thought it was a little weird but now I’m loving the idea. So I thought, why the heck not? Why not give myself a little motto or quote…make it cute and hang it somewhere in my home for me to see daily for a reminder?
Live Simply, Love Generously, Learn Constantly ❤
That’s it! I am going to simplify my home, my jobs, my schedule, my overall life. I’m going to love those around me and SHOW it, because I really don’t. I am going to constantly learn things.
I love lists so I am sharing with each of you my New Year’s List to see how I am breaking this down for myself so I don’t get overwhelmed
clean/organize/decorate 1 room each month
works 2 hours a day no more
say NO to things I really can’t fit in
Monday night=Family Night
Volunteer to say prayer more often
Read 1 book a month (I’ll share my list later)
Slower to anger with my kids
Yoga daily (this won’t be easy)
Go to the temple once a month
Of course, I will struggle with all of these, but I have kept my goals SIMPLE enough that they will be easy enough to do! Nothing crazy, nothing I don’t doubt I can do….
I heard someone saw a mom with a list of 40….FORTY….4×10…10+10+10+10….40, New Year’s Resolutions!!! Why? Why are you so unhappy that you have a list of 40 things to change, improve or add to your life??? If your list seems to never end…we need to chat. You need to learn to love yourself just the way you were created
, work on imperfections and love the beautiful person that everyone is blessed to know and love.
So enjoy the New Year, make it the best one yet because you are in charge of the life you live ❤